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Ah,

How I wish You could Hear what I Hear,

and See what I See ...


if there is one person who understands

the falling rain,

the changing tone,

and the trembling leaves,

in the night breeze.

(PS. My teacher read this poem, and kindly suggested an ellipse would end it better than a period. Readers may choose whatever form they want for this poem, or create new ones. Poem is just a way to rouse feelings, and it serves differently for everyone. How it should be written, in this sense, is not confined to a single individual's understanding.)

磨指甲

感恩节一下子过大半圈了.

昨日去Briarwood, 本来是要去买食品和日常用品(牙膏和伞), 结果却是扛了几袋衣服, 差点没回得了宿舍. 在Briarwood有一位女推销员, 看着我, 一位黄皮肤的人, 提着大包小包, 于是在我经过的时候问"你庆祝圣诞么?"

我回过头, 差点没停得下脚步, 不知来者何意, 于是说: "也许吧, 不过这不是个传统的项目." 作为身在异国经常被白人抓着探讨东方文化的华人, 我习惯性地以为她会接下来说"我来自XX地方, 那里庆祝XX节日". 然后咱们会有愉快的文化交流, 然后满载笑容离开.

结果她说: "那你一定有对你特别重要的女人吧? 女朋友?" 听到这个我思维掉了个大弯, 心里想"靠, 女朋友?! 俺光棍们正纠结孤单寂寞的精神和本质呢!" 然后这女推销员, 怕是看到了我奇特的神情变化, 马上接着问: "那你母亲?" 我没法说不, 于是说, 有啊.

然后她马上把我引向柜台, 等我反应过来她是要给我推销东西的时候, 已经来不及转头了. 她把我左手抬起来, 马不停蹄地讲: "你想在圣诞的时候给她们送一份最不错的礼品么? 我们现在有一款XXX, 效果很好." 我没听懂她想要说什么, 但她继续滔滔不绝"能够让她们的指甲保持两周的亮白, 不论她们做什么事情. " 我恍过一点神来. 然后她摸了一下我拇指指甲, 说"你看你的普通指甲外表有棱面, 不光滑", 她把一个盒子形状的东西按在我指甲上, 快速左右摩擦, 一边继续"这东西效果持久, 而且操作方便, 你准备好了么?"

她把盒子拿开. 我果然被震撼到了. 我指甲不仅平滑, 还有多得吓人的光泽. 我第一反应是这真不像男人的指甲, 第二反应是完了, 这下怎么摆脱这位推销员. 她继续滔滔不绝, 但我还是很快想到敷衍一句, 谢谢你, 不过我真的需要走了. 她说, 噢, 好吧, 然后背过头忙自己的去了. 行动之快之流畅, 一如她的连珠话语. 我又被震撼了, 不是吧, 蛇尾都这么有水准.

我还几乎抱歉一样加了句, "但是谢谢!"才仓皇逃走.

走了没几步, 我才回过神来, 她当初为什么问我庆不庆祝圣诞, 为何问我"重要的女人", 为何会在人流中挑选我这个其貌不扬的亚裔人. 我开始责备自己, 怎么不反应早一点呢, 应该马上向她学习哪. 那么咱们就可以在另一个层次愉快地技术交流, 然后满载笑容离开了.

很多时候, 我以为自己太敏感. 挺多时候, 我还是不够敏感.

烤炙食品区的大婶

在烤炙食品区, 有位棕色皮肤的大婶. 

她说的英语弹跳得让我难以捕捉.

她的名字我未曾记住.

她来自巴拿马.

她曾在纽约曼哈顿, 布鲁克林谋生.

她烹饪, 但她不总是个食物工作者.

她当过机场保安, 见过无数旅人.

她在西莱克斯有了女儿.

她来密歇根三年, 跟随丈夫的脚步.

她来美国二十余载, 独自一人.

她说: "我只身来到这个国度, 就和你一样."

在那个明媚的清晨, 空荡的厨房里, 音乐机播放着的90年代经典流行声中, 她与另一位正在煎蛋的黑人大婶聊着感恩节的计划.

也让我想, 在那棕褐纹理皮肤下, 有过怎样的曲折故事, 笑颜和泪水, 希望和辛酸.

而也许, 真正具体到每一天, 时间也只是这样平淡地流过. 也许, 一切大风大浪, 最终都会回归到宁静的日子.

一个人的一生, 当是比任何书籍都更能诠释人文的涵义.

Wonder

There are moments in life,

when you wonder how things might have been different,

if you had chosen another path.

Yet it is not for us to tell.

Even the very wise cannot see all ends.

Dream of Childhood

To travel around the world --

To admire the mountains capped by ice and clothed by cloud. To wade across streams tucked in deep forest and decorated by singings of birds. To walk through streets where time never passes and memories never lost. To talk with people who know the tales and styles of old ages.

To stride on the ground --

To feel the softness of soil, the freshness of growing things, the cool of morning air, the blurry view of hard rain. To learn the stories behind a building, a sculpture, a picture, a letter, a person. To be marveled by the perfection of nature, by the striving of human kind.

To step out and to the journey ahead.

Read, write, read

We need to make a multi-media project about the book Into the Wild. Specifically, we need to create a website with a specific theme derived from this book. Everyone in our group needs to write something equal to five pages of words accompanying one kind of media to illustrate one aspect of the general theme of our website. For example, you can create a painting, and write a five page explanation of how this panting illustrates a specific idea from the book. There is no requirement about how we should write, but the writing is expected to render an in-depth thought on its subject.

After spending two nights pondering what should be my angle of addressing this book and having browsed through the entire 200 pages twice, I finally started typing some original text from the book to my laptop and formed a very obscure idea about my topic. I am going to observe the way people interacted with Alex in his adventures. I hope from this observation some insight about the general attitude of the society can be gained, and in turn how that might have influenced Alex.

Every time when I have to write an argument paper on a book, I have to go through the book several times before I can eventually hit on a point that makes me feel "this idea might work". This sort of writing is not something people can finish in a two-hour leisure time after dinner. Writing, in general, is something that can be delved into and take up considerable time. Writing a simple essay can cost several days. Now I am gradually developing skills about how to create an argument well supported by evidences throughout a book, but I also understand I need a lot, lot of practice before this skill can be refined to a level of reasonable height.

I was also reminded that I once read someone relating that his teacher said "One has to read at least 2000 books before he can form his independent thought." Then this man started gorging books, but some how, as he recalled, in a way of reading books just for its own sake. He read books just to hit a number. He reproached himself that he did not really hold an opinion of himself when he read, thus he was doing a really passive reading. I think probably few people would really just sit and meditate for several hours after finishing a book. More, I suspect, would have gone through the process that while reading they simply accept what is given, and once in a while they will run into ideas in contradiction with what they already know, possibly from some other reading. It is at this moment that they start evaluating which of these opposing idea is of more merits. In this way, gradually people grow sharp in their thinking. Actually I feel this should be a common process for all people -- even for those who do meditation after finishing a book -- as who, at the beginning of their learning, would be able to form opinions about a book with reliable evidences drawn from other books or resources? Thus passive reading always comes first.

Prom

我看到一张朋友在舞会的相片. 两对舞伴在一起, 西装革履的男士位于中间, 西装下是同为淡紫或同为金黄的领带和衬背夹衣, 前胸表有灿开的花朵, 精心修饰于附珍珠的丝网上. 一手后弯, 拢于身旁女士侧边. 眉头在阳光下微皱, 但微弯的嘴角后仍然流溢的是自信. 两位身着无比精致的绸缎晚礼服的女士婷婷立于两侧, 笑得温婉和雅. 手腕上配饰着令人惊叹的花: 坠有珍珠的丝网半围于花下, 拢着花的娇羞和白艳, 而花与丝网都嵌于淡紫的绸缎上, 紧凑而不失优雅地缠在纤细的手腕之背. 草坪的尽头是高耸的绿木.

我参加过舞会, 却没有极为正面的感受. 一来无好友可谈可笑, 二来舞伴亦是胡拼乱凑. 本打算单身赴会, 却被老妈命于"要学会和女生交往"于是只好请者不拒. 我体会到了在最终只落到节奏而非旋律的音乐中乱蹦的快感, 但也深刻感到这只是一种对平日生活的回避, 仿佛拼命工作来试图麻木感情的失落, 或是醉饮来试图忘却忧愁的过往. 然而夜深之时, 酒醒之后, 总能发现该在的仍然还是在, 该困扰的仍然困扰. 然后体会到心底的痕迹并不是一朝一夜的外物能够化去. 而最伤人的莫过于, 在外物刺激感官时, 却同时刺激人的心灵和思维, 于是蓦然发现萦绕心头的渴望和憧憬在这一刻仿佛更加清晰真实, 几乎可以伸出手触摸到.

不过在这个相片中, 舞会仍然是如此盛大而欢喜. 这是舞会应有的情感. 男士谨慎地过问女士是否愿意一同出席, 如果凑成, 然后需要商讨服装风格和色彩. 男士的领带和夹衣多与女士的晚礼服使用同一颜色. 舞会前见面时, 男士会带一株戴于手腕的精致花朵, 连着和女士礼服一样色泽的绸缎, 然后小心为女士扣上. 女士亦会带一朵同样精致的花, 温和地为男士别在胸前. 花底陪衬的颜色也与女士绸缎色彩相同. 两人于是通过这样的方式, 向他人表示舞伴的身份. 舞会中, 在嘈杂震耳的节奏外, 也会有曲子为了男女舞伴而备. 这时男女面对, 男士两手放在女士腰部, 女士两手搭在男士肩上, 两人随节奏摇动. 这叫什么舞我也不知道.

虽然美国高中恋爱已是再普遍不过, 但在这种正式的场合中合舞仍然让人悸动. 如果把舞会搬到中国来会什么样呢? 其实我很好奇, 一直被官方压抑的情感在得到正式认可后会有何样的反应. 其实舞会就是一起跳舞嘛. 为什么这么正式呢? 学礼仪嘛. 舞会除了学礼仪之外呢? 其实我使劲想, 除了让学生带礼仪疯闹外, 还有就是给学生和异性近矩离交往的机会. 有什么用呢? 是啊, 有什么用呢? 它能让你进到好学校找到好工作么? 也许不能. 所以这舞会搬到咱中国高中自然不可想象. 其实社会上并没有把男女交往作为禁忌, 其实社会也鼓励男女交往. 美国只是把时间提前了. 为什么要鼓励男女交往? 我发现自己陷入惯性思维了. 因为高中告诉我恋爱是不好的, 所以我默认它是理应抑制的了. 男女交往, 就像一个人看到盛开的花朵也会想多看几眼一样, 只是人的本性罢了. 人做的一切到头来也许只是直接或间接地为本性服务而已, 比如填饱肚子, 比如欣赏美的东西, 比如享受家人的陪伴.

所以我发现惯性思维真可怕, 中国只是强调恋爱会影响学习, 而这个印象扎根如此之深以至于让我潜意识怀疑恋爱本身的正当性. 其实毫无根据. 还有多少其他方面我也这样被惯性思维限制着呢?

彼美淑姬, 可与晤言

曾经我给一个朋友的邮件中提到: "为路边绽放的花而欣喜, 为雨打芭蕉的滴答而欣喜, 为雨后弥漫的青草和泥土的气息而欣喜, 为夜晚宁静的天空而欣喜." 我当时称此为放低心态. 或者有些人会说"知足常乐".

我在"荒野生存"中读到过一段令人印象深刻的诠释(但之后我再也找不到那段原文了), 让我得出了也许更为准确的对这种状态的总结, 那就是"一种近矩离的对生活本身的意识感". 一束阳光, 一片落叶, 一只笔, 一本书, 一段文字, 一张图片, 无不是值得欣喜的东西. 我们应该仔细体会的, 不仅只是这些事物本身的美, 而还有他们在我们心里激起的细微的感情变化. 就像阳光与树枝映射出的和谐色彩, 落叶的轻, 脆和它的沧桑斑驳, 或者仅仅只是手接触到书脊时的质感, 还有一页页文字本身, 都是能让人感动的艺术.

托马斯-摩尔笔下乌托邦国的人民有一种自然的观念: 健康本身就是最原始, 也是最恒久的快乐. 能够顺畅地呼吸, 伸展手脚, 吃下东西,  听到各种声音, 察觉到各种气味, 走去不同的地方, 而没有身体的不适, 这不是很值得开心么?

生活并非只是咱去了什么学校或者拿到什么工作和薪酬. 惊艳于乐曲的一个音符转折, 在阴冷的清晨突然发现平时路过的一棵树通红遍染, 或者静心做一顿饭. 生活本身亦不过如此.

昨夜看了"钢铁侠2", 托尼的女友Pepper并不是能力最强的或长得最惊艳的, 但10年秘书, 她是最了解托尼让他安心说话的人. 其实我听人说过, 生活哪有那么多的生死关头让你来感受爱情伟大, 娶妻不过是找一个能够说话的人. 生活如此, 娶妻亦然.

东门之池,
可以沤菅.
彼美淑姬,
可与晤言.

--诗经·陈风

Temptation from the Wilderness

The physical domain of the country had its counterpart in me. The trails I made led outward into the hills and swamps, but they led inward also. And from the study of things underfoot, and from reading and thinking, came a kind of exploration, myself and the land. In time the two became one in my mind. With the gathering force of an essential thing realizing itself out of early ground, I faced in myself a passionate and tenacious longing--to put away thought forever, and all the trouble it brings, all but the nearest desire, direct and searching. To take the trail and not look back. Whether on foot, on showshoes or by sled, into the summer hills and their late freezing shadows--a high blaze, a runner track in the snow would show where I had gone. Let the rest of mankind find me if it could.


John Haines
The Stars, The Snow, The Fire: 
Twenty-five Years in the Northern Wilderness

09.25.2010

In North Quad, about a dozen of Chinese people were watching the movie “Wanted”. Long have I heard about it, and I actually have seen the beginning, yet I do not really like the bloody scene. Still, it is hard to deny the special effect and the imaginary skills are fairly impressive. At the end, the main character is still wondering who he is - it seems like I am dealing with a lot of identity definition recently. I do it in reading, in class, in writing, in personal experience, and now in movies. All self-defining themes, just in different perspectives. If we really look into it, we will discover a lot of things are intrinsically similar: they function in the same way, and for a lot of time, almost serve an identical purpose.

My friends prepared a lot of food. It seemed like a feast: black grapes, watermelon, soda, moon cakes, and peaches. It was something new to me, as I never did this kind of preparation for “party” (if you can call that) before. Back home, we usually went out hiking for hours. But yes, I was impressed how good people here can enjoy themselves.

On the way back, I stopped at the gym. I ended up running on a machine for 30 minutes. When running, time seemed to pass annoyingly slow. Thus it’s a good idea to do some thinking while running, which would guarantee zero complaint about how insufficient our time is. Running on a machine is definitely different from running on the field. Running outside, even just on a concrete road, makes you feel the earth, the environment, and the connection you are bestowed with the great nature. You will feel the breeze soft as silk, the firmness of the ground upon which everything grows, and the sky, always there motionless, but will time after time strike your heart. In the end, we came from the earth, and we are going back to it -- which was same as millions of years ago, when humans were tramping over the wide grassland, dabbling across rivers, and hiking over mountains. Today people dream of that, but seldom move their feet to do it.

Using machine is not a bad idea. Actually I wonder if it’s more efficient than “natural running”. With the numbers showing our heart rate, the time passed and the running speed, we certainly have a good way to pace ourselves. Sometimes these numbers encourage me to push a little harder and over my limit. If I originally decided just to run for 20 min, when I crossed that line, there will be a temptation to go for 30 min, and then more. It’s not a bad thing, but sometimes I worry it can be bad for my body to go too far.

When walking back, I decided to take a little detour across the grass field in front of Alice Lloyd, which is called Palmer Field. There were four people playing Frisbee. No race, no competition, just throwing it from one to another. Why people would call college “the best years of life”, I could see some points now. Not very far away, there lied a person (looking at the stars?). Walking near, I saw there were actually two figures. A guy and a girl, talking, lying with back toward the sky. Lovers? I really hope my passing wouldn’t disturb their peace. Far away up on the hill there were some figures chatting and laughing, creating a blurred vision imagine from here, a perfect scene to watch for developing relationships. Never in a relationship before, I heard and saw a lot about it, and I dare to say it is one of the best things in the world. Benjamin should also have said: “God created us and love is the prove that He loves us.”

HMCC and Meijer

Just upon the day I arrived on campus, I was invited to an International Game Night hold by HMCC, a local Christian church. They call it international for a good reason. People came from Mexico, Canada, China, Japan, Korea, Ireland, New Zealand, Indonesia, Malaysia, India, Australia, Greece, Spain, and some other countries I can’t think of names. They are from all years of college, including a good number of graduate students. Later at 10:00 pm, students running that events arranged a trip to Meijer which is about 10 miles away, by organizing students with a car to provide rides. Meijer is open 24 hours, and that’s why they make good money from our college students. It felt funny that all people walking in that huge supermarket were from the Game Night and I knew the majority of them. The shopping was exceptionally helpful for those who just came to the campus, for they were accompanied by older students, who provide suggestions about what to buy for dorms.

Later I participated in some other HMCC events. One that shocked me was a presentation. I was late for it, but I heard the narration of the speaker about his experience in different countries. There was a band playing background music. Later, we all stood up and sing a song for God. People were singing loudly, proudly and extending their arms in the air. That message was the strongest one I ever received from a religion. That night we had another Meijer invasion. 

But it turned out Meijer was itself a huge party that night. People were giving free hotdogs and soda outside. Inside, the building was crowded with college students, and only college students. While trying to make my way through aisles, I spotted only one woman who might be older than 30. Meijer was giving dozens of kinds of free stuff, such as free posters, free writing white board, free pens, etc. People could came out loaded for free. Near the check-out area, there was a stage with a host and three students on it. The host was asking questions such as “Who is the president of University of Michigan?” and “What is the oldest sport in Canada?” There are electronic point counters showing how many points each competitor received. Understandably, when the competitor hesitated on a simple question, people off stage grew really, really excited. That was our Meijer at midnight. Our driver, a formal UM student, now working as a high school social science teacher, did not forget to grab several free hotdogs for breakfast.

Alice Lloyd Hall

Welcome to University of Michigan!

People have been asking me about my college life. Actually there is so much to say that I don’t know where to begin. Let’s just start, and see how my words flow.

Hill Neighborhood, Alice Lloyd @ left side, MoJo @ right.

I live in Alice Lloyd Hall for my freshman year, thanks to the LHSP. LHSP stands for Lloyd Hall Scholars Program. This is a learning community (in a learning community, all students live together, and participate in various events and courses offered by the learning community) with a focus on arts, reading, and writing. That probably explains why no matter how late I come back to my dorm, there is always someone playing piano in the Barner Lounge. Sometimes not very melodious. Sometimes the lounge even gets a singer.

Board @ 4th floor Hinsdale House, Alice Lloyd

But Alice Lloyd is not all about LHSP. There is also another program residing here, called HSSP, standing for Health Science Scholars Program. Another probably 100 students not affiliated with any learning community also live in Alice Lloyd. Apparently HSSP is more about the science of human health. In one of the Ice Cream Social of Alice Lloyd, a boy told me when he started his freshman year in HSSP, his professor showed the students a disgusting dead body. “In this way, some people might be scared away and be relieved from further disturbing stuff they might encounter in HSSP.” He said. Maybe they have the same “pre-program scaring” going on this year.

Alice Lloyd is part of Hill Neighborhood, located at the northeast corner of Central Campus. Right next to us is MoJo, another dorm building. Just renovated, MoJo is widely acclaimed for its legendary dining hall, which many believe to be the best dining hall in UM. The view in the dining hall is stunning. As for food, I actually have trouble for eating too much almost every time I dine there. They always have pizzas, burgers, sandwiches, grilled meat, spaghetti, a lot of vegetables and fruits, all kinds of drink and desert (including 5 kinds of ice cream plus sprinkles @_@). More “advanced” food, such as Asian or Mexican food, they change everyday. Why college is notoriously expensive? Here is one reason.

MoJo Dining Hall

Mount Cook

People I know always desire to see things that are different. Thus they like traveling, sometimes just to have a escape from daily life and touch another world. Maybe some people are like me. We have a kind of feeling, or even a image inside our mind, representing something that we hope one day could become reality, and we can see it with our real eyes.

When I was in US, there was one afternoon with a cloudy sky outside. I was browsing in Google Earth. Then I discovered Mount Cook, in the South Island of New Zealand. Totally and helplessly attracted by the landscape in the movies "The Lord of the Rings", I always strongly admire the great beauty of New Zealand. Long ago I told myself, this is one of the places that I should not miss in my short life.

Also several days ago I got to know a song, Closer by Dido. Every time I listen to it, the melody reminds me that there is so much in life to enjoy. Actually from one aspect, life is simple. We always want to improve the world; yet to an individual like every single one of us, no matter how much we may achieve, at the bottom line our life is about finding something we like doing, finding someone we love, and moving to somewhere we dream of.

To write this blog, I spent a lot of time trying to find the very best one picture that could describe how I felt about Mount Cook in that cloudy afternoon, but it's in vain. No single picture is able to convey the feeling of navigating through probably hundreds of images that depicted Mt Cook from different angles, time, and distances. They created an atmosphere. They told me of Mt Cook in rain, in snow, in sunshine, and in shadow of the clouds.

But I did save one picture that's great in itself (below).

Later I searched the lyrics of Closer by Dido:

So leave your taxi waiting 

And turn and close my door 

And sit back down where you were sitting 

A little closer than before

When you look that serious 

It just makes me want you more 

And I've been needing to tell you

The closer you get, the better I feel 

The closer you are, the more I see 

Why everyone says that I look happier 

When you're around 

The closer you get, the better I feel

And yes I know you're nervous 

Never seen you so unsure 

You haven't touched your food tonight 

And you're drinking more and more

And there's no need to hurry 

Taking time I'll still be here 

And I've been needing to tell you

The closer you get, the better I feel 

The closer you are, the more I see 

Why everyone says that I look happier 

When you're around

better I feel

The closer you get, better you see

The closer you are, more I see

Why everyone says that I look happier

When you're around 

The closer you get, better I feel 

Better I feel 

We've been circling for time baby 

We're coming down to land tonight 

The wait is over and now it's easy 

Everything is fine 

The closer you get, better I feel

The closer you are, more I see

Why everyone says that I look happier

When you're around, better I feel

The closer you get, better you see

The closer you are, more I see

Why everyone says that I look happier

When you're around 

The closer you get

Better I feel

(End)

Simply great. It's expressive, considerate, and comforting.

财新传媒主编王烁的老婆twitter (转自人人网日志) Wang Shuo's "Wife Twitter" History

在原文之前, 先说几句. 在人人网上看到这日志, 如此有趣, 让我觉得应该摘到博客上来. 我不知道理想婚姻有多少种, 但这篇日志看起来很不错. 许多女孩性格不错也懂得关心人, 却少了些灵动之气. 于我而言, 自然希望生活能更多些有趣的细节.

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7月6日▼WangShuo 王烁 - Buzz - 公开 - 已忽略

老婆推周年庆大合集（2009年7月至2010年7月）

第一则老婆推发在去年7月，迄今正好一年。现推出老婆推周年大合集。很长，很overwhelming，读者体力要好，精神状态要饱满，生活要幸福。否则，你受不了的。


第一集（2009年7月至10月）

WangShuo: #PresetationSecret 老婆抢过iphone，看上面打开的书是乔布斯演讲术，不屑，“谁会看这种书？有什么用？”我对曰，“这种书是给闷骚的人看的，你是闷骚的天敌，用不着。”

from Twitter / WangShuo - Oct 27, 2009 (2 days ago)

WangShuo: 老婆：“你什么时候最幸福？”我：“当你太过顽皮，我精选时间场合气氛，大着胆子，对你提出建设性批评，而你居然接受了。这时候我最幸福。”

from Twitter / WangShuo - Oct 23, 2009 (6 days ago)

WangShuo: 老婆在星巴克，旁边一人依次用港普﹑普通话﹑东北话打电话，先后自称香港人﹑北京人。老婆认为语言天才，我认为骗子。

from Twitter / WangShuo - Oct 23, 2009 (6 days ago)

WangShuo: 取款机取钱，分一半给老婆。老婆边塞进钱包边开心，“有一种被老公养的感觉。”我问，“你不是特别自豪于独立自强新女性？”老婆说，“这是我领导力的表现。”

from Twitter / WangShuo - Oct 19, 2009 2:48 PM

WangShuo: 跟老婆猜拳定谁去干家务。老婆掰开我的手掌，比出剪刀手势，在我的大惊失色中，冷静地说：“你输了，去吧。”

from Twitter / WangShuo - Oct 14, 2009 8:29 PM

WangShuo: 老婆问，你为什么不批评我不思进取不干活？

from Twitter / WangShuo - Oct 11, 2009 7:18 PM

WangShuo: 今天表现特别好。老婆奖励了一个“为所欲为”指标，就是想干嘛干嘛，她不干涉。晚上我想看电视，老婆不许。我要求启用指标。她说，好的，你可以为所欲为地听我的话。政府都这样的吗？

from Twitter / WangShuo - Oct 3, 2009 11:56 PM

WangShuo: 老婆看促销广告，叫，我们扮情侣吧，情侣价8折。我说好的，反正人家查出来我们也是转正情侣。

from Twitter / WangShuo - Oct 2, 2009 1:08 PM

WangShuo: 在机场拍了几张照片，问老婆，有没有拍出北京今天的苍茫？老婆说，没有的事。你不会用光。

from Twitter / WangShuo - Sep 30, 2009 6:16 PM

WangShuo: 昨天有10张星巴克咖啡券，慨然送同事。后见桌上有貌似无主的星巴克咖啡券，数之，六张，揣之以归。献给老婆，记功一次。今晨有同事责我归还，窘。人生无常。

from Twitter / WangShuo - Sep 29, 2009 4:26 PM

WangShuo: 老婆你化妆了吗？没有啊。那为什么看上去效果好像比化妆还好呢？老婆开心地笑了。

from Twitter / WangShuo - Sep 27, 2009 7:00 PM

WangShuo: 在外一天，冷落老婆，心中害怕，频频致电，要不要出来逛街？要不要我带本八卦杂志回家？峻拒。益恐，奔回。无他，老婆耽于穿越文耳。

from Twitter / WangShuo - Sep 27, 2009 12:49 AM

WangShuo: #mylife 老婆说我们是宅里巴人。

from Twitter / WangShuo - Sep 19, 2009 10:53 PM

WangShuo: 这个店的服务员采用了我所见过的最笨拙办法与顾客套瓷。她指着我对我老婆说，“大姐，上次陪您来的不是这位先生吧？”幸好她问的不是我。

from Twitter / WangShuo - Sep 18, 2009 9:04 PM

WangShuo: #mylife 看到电脑上有56个windows更新，老婆愉快地唱：“56个更新56朵花，56个更新是一家。”

from Twitter / WangShuo - Sep 9, 2009 10:50 AM

WangShuo: 吃完饭，老婆懒得动，但还想吃蛋糕。我问，不是说吃撑了吗？辣的那部分吃撑了。甜的还没开始。她说。

from Twitter / WangShuo - Sep 5, 2009 12:46 PM

WangShuo: 在商场，老婆去看衣服，我依门看推。抬头老婆不见了。她身上没钱没手机没钥匙。三无人士，真丢就麻烦了。

from Twitter / WangShuo - Aug 30, 2009 1:39 PM

WangShuo: 真的男人，敢于当父母的面抱着老婆甜言蜜语。

from Twitter / WangShuo - Aug 28, 2009 12:55 AM

WangShuo: 陪老婆在社区医院打点滴。老婆从来没这么安静过。六七年前结婚时同事问婚后有什么感想，我说“吵了”。

from Twitter / WangShuo - Aug 22, 2009 11:22 AM

WangShuo: #mylife 岳父母来信，说我是打着灯笼也找不着的好女婿；妈妈给老婆来信，说她做儿媳比妈妈当初做得更好。我在办公室里炫耀，张继伟说这相当于交换国书。

from Twitter / WangShuo - Aug 21, 2009 11:31 PM

WangShuo: 今天对老婆说，你好吃懒做，又懒又馋，我最喜欢，再胖点就更好了。老婆当时就在肯德基感动地哭了。

from Twitter / WangShuo - Aug 12, 2009 12:26 AM

WangShuo: 陪老婆逛街时商店有两种，一种是有凳子的，一种是没有的。

from Twitter / WangShuo - Jul 20, 2009 3:08 PM

第二集（2009年11月）

WangShuo: 洗完澡舍不得关水，因为水温刚刚好，急忙叫老婆也来洗一把。老婆很感动：“有什么好的你都会想着我.......”

from Twitter / WangShuo - 12:01 AM (2 minutes ago)

WangShuo: 老婆逛商店，嫌衣服贵，自言自语，“反正有老公了，不用买了。”

from Twitter / WangShuo - Nov 28, 2009 (3 days ago)

WangShuo: 乖乖坐在老婆边上听她八卦，是不够的。我还得不时做点睛评论，以此表明：在听，在思考，有互动，有贡献。

from Twitter / WangShuo - Nov 27, 2009 (4 days ago)

WangShuo: 介绍一下夫妻兵法：只要老婆不生气，就不断表扬我。只要老婆生气，我就确保吵架每次输给她。

from Twitter / WangShuo - Nov 27, 2009 (4 days ago)

WangShuo: 说起箱子，老婆在桌子下藏着一只箱子好久，直到最近几年才不见。我偶然问是什么。“离家出走备用的，现在用不着了，建议你备一个。”

from Twitter / WangShuo - Nov 25, 2009 (6 days ago)

WangShuo: 前天离职交车，跟办手续的联办接收人员炫耀，说老婆把压箱底的钱拿出来给我买车。对方很冷静，“她有几口箱子？”

from Twitter / WangShuo - Nov 25, 2009 (6 days ago)

WangShuo: “老婆，为什么前晚你梦话说了一晚上？”“因为狮子座流星雨。”“老婆，为什么昨晚你睡不着老溜到客厅上网？”“因为狮子座流星雨。”“老婆，找借口还这么懒就是你不对了。”

from Twitter / WangShuo - Nov 20, 2009 10:14 AM

WangShuo: 老婆端详迟到六年的tiffany婚戒，满心欢喜之余嫌贵。我安慰，感情不打折。她说，感情当然不打折，戒指为什么不？

from Twitter / WangShuo - Nov 16, 2009 11:09 PM

WangShuo: 老婆早上说心得，老公要放养不要圈养。我说，一样的一样的。

from Twitter / WangShuo - Nov 11, 2009 1:59 PM

WangShuo: 老婆太调皮我生气了，要发火。老婆说，这样吧，我数到三你就开始发火。我同意。她数：一﹑二﹑四﹑五﹑﹑﹑

from Twitter / WangShuo - Nov 8, 2009 5:49 PM

WangShuo: 跟老婆吵架了怎么办？想道歉老婆不接电话怎么办？在办公室里，抢过老婆能识别出号码的同事的电话，拨通，趁老婆没反应过来是你的时候，大声地说，“我道歉！”搞定。

from Twitter / WangShuo - Nov 5, 2009 6:11 PM

WangShuo: 2004年与老婆出国前，岳父塞给她2000美元，"吵架了回国有张机票钱“。在首都机场我就没收了，”你会丢的，我保管吧“。果然在美国吵架了，老婆离家出走至电影院，嫌票价贵，冷静，回家。

from Twitter / WangShuo - Nov 3, 2009 11:07 PM

第三集（2009年12月）

WangShuo: 看到一串项链很好看。我坚定地说，给你买！老婆凑过去，价签上的零一时数不过来。原来是 2,560,000。我们逃走了。

from Twitter / WangShuo - 8:24 PM (31 minutes ago)

WangShuo: 老婆说，早上你要负责叫我起床。如果我赖床，是你的责任。

from Twitter / WangShuo - Dec 29, 2009 (2 days ago)

WangShuo: 老婆最喜欢说：我每天都在你身上发现新的优点。跟你在一起每天都在谈恋爱。老婆说她是真诚的，不是御夫术。我相信她。

from Twitter / WangShuo - Dec 26, 2009 (5 days ago)

WangShuo: 老婆问我从这次风波中学到了什么，我思考良久，认真作答一二三，忽见老婆怒目金钢，沉着应道：这些其实都不重要，最重要的是有好老婆。

from Twitter / WangShuo - Dec 24, 2009 6:14 PM

生日老婆推加推：老婆的梦想是包养我，我的梦想是她实现梦想。

from Twitter / WangShuo - Dec 24, 2009 3:28 PM

WangShuo: 老婆昨晚呼声如雷，再三拍之，如故。晨起老婆说我呼声如雷，她一度被迫起来上网。我问，为什么不拍拍我？然后想起，我是拍了她，有用吗？雷公雷婆。

from Twitter / WangShuo - Dec 23, 2009 4:59 PM

WangShuo: 老婆刚从外地发来短信，说这次有些好地方舍不得逛，要留着下次我们两人一起去。

from Twitter / WangShuo - Dec 19, 2009 11:05 PM

WangShuo: 以前某周末早上，老婆监督我刷牙。我说，星期天我休息，牙齿也要休息。老婆大笑，就放过了我。隽语有时比黄金更可贵，不比信心差。

from Twitter / WangShuo - Dec 6, 2009 11:48 AM

WangShuo: 早上老婆问我刷牙没有，我说，你要听真话还是听假话。老婆说，不用听了，去刷吧。

from Twitter / WangShuo - Dec 6, 2009 11:48 AM

WangShuo: 老婆醒来坚持听economist音频版，不幸再次昏倒，趴在我身上睡着了，打着小鼾，我一点都不觉得她重。

from Twitter / WangShuo - Dec 4, 2009 9:07 PM

WangShuo: 老婆听经济学家音频版又睡着了。我对她说，这个太好了，要么醒着就是学习，要么就是睡着养身体，都是好事，我很满意。

from Twitter / WangShuo - Dec 4, 2009 9:07 PM

WangShuo: 变造一下今天的推特金句，得出：你跟老婆讲道理她就耍赖皮，你跟她耍赖皮她就讲道理。

from Twitter / WangShuo - Dec 2, 2009 8:40 PM

WangShuo: 老婆说，2004年送了你一台笔记本电脑，2009年送了你一辆车，算了，不能再送更贵的了，要伤你自尊了。我说，千万不要考虑我的自尊。

from Twitter / WangShuo - Dec 2, 2009 8:40 PM

第四集（2010年1月）

老婆推精选第四集（2010年1月）

WangShuo: 家务事我和老婆有分工。老婆负责阴谋诡计，我负责上当。

from Twitter / WangShuo - 9:59 AM (25 minutes ago)

WangShuo: 昨晚老婆在家端着笔记本电脑走路时摔了一跤，但端的姿势一点没变，电脑完好无损。她很得意，我表扬了她。

from Twitter / WangShuo - Jan 29, 2010 (2 days ago)

WangShuo: 清晨上班路上老婆呱呱呱不停，我受不了，要求跳车，立即获批。然未跳。

from Twitter / WangShuo - Jan 28, 2010 (3 days ago)

WangShuo: 我对老婆说，你太懒太能混了，叫你混世魔王怎么样？

from Twitter / WangShuo - Jan 27, 2010 (4 days ago)

WangShuo: 吃完午饭出来，老婆不由自主向商店走去。我问她是不是想逛街。她说是纯散步。我说，你为什么不能正视自己的内心呢？

from Twitter / WangShuo - Jan 23, 2010 1:49 PM

WangShuo: 老婆看完阿凡达出来，听说要放孔子了，问她倒贴100块看孔子去不去？她问，能不能光倒贴？

from Twitter / WangShuo - Jan 21, 2010 3:34 PM

WangShuo: 老婆无谓失误损失了600块，马上来表扬我，老公你有个优点是大方，可要保持啊。

from Twitter / WangShuo - Jan 18, 2010 8:47 PM

WangShuo: 老婆说，你现在越来越会说话了，再也不像以前那样质朴诚实了。我说，我以前跟你说过，你不能惩罚诚实。你听了吗？

from Twitter / WangShuo - Jan 17, 2010 10:19 PM

WangShuo: 老婆暖洋洋地躺在长沙发上，笔记本电脑在肚子上，热茶在茶几上，毛毯在腿上，自成一统小世界。为什么每次我这样躺在那里老婆都会过来捣乱？我悟了。

from Twitter / WangShuo - Jan 16, 2010 5:49 PM

WangShuo: 我把昨天的博文《Google改变规则》做了个英文版。老婆看后不高兴好久。我问为什么，她说，唉，你的英语比我好太多了。

from Twitter / WangShuo - Jan 15, 2010 10:56 AM

WangShuo: 老婆不在家的时候，我一般是看书看到自然睡；老婆在家的时候，我往往是装睡避开她的十万个为什么，然后弄假成真。

from Twitter / WangShuo - Jan 14, 2010 1:33 PM

WangShuo: 早上老婆在车上拿起一瓶冻得半结冰的矿泉水，递给我，来，给我捂捂暖！我泪流满面。

from Twitter / WangShuo - Jan 11, 2010 9:03 AM

WangShuo: 老婆今天上午拔牙以来，似乎没有停止过说话。

from Twitter / WangShuo - Jan 5, 2010 8:57 PM

WangShuo: 老婆，元旦假期过得如何？很好。生日周期过得如何？很好。对我有什么不满意的地方？没有。那能不能不要随便对我发飙？我没有随意，我发的都是正义的飙。

from Twitter / WangShuo - Jan 3, 2010 6:50 PM

WangShuo: 在东方广场sony店玩摄像机的笑脸自动识别定格拍照，我和老婆脸部表情从木然到傻笑多次，屡试不爽。旁边情侣环伺，无一敢于效尤。

from Twitter / WangShuo - Jan 1, 2010 6:30 PM

第五集（2010年2月）

WangShuo: 有次赴美，登机口通知我免费升商务仓。我问能不能给老婆一并升，被告不行。我说那就算了，得跟老婆在一起。归座得老婆表扬若干。再过片刻，通知我两人都升仓。好人好报，以此为最。RT @zhaozhou: 每飞十五次经济舱后，就会有一次被免费升级到头等舱。

from Twitter / WangShuo - Feb 24, 2010 11:34 AM

WangShuo: 某次跟老婆在拉斯维加斯看无上装show，中间睡着，老婆自此对我很放心。

from Twitter / WangShuo - Feb 16, 2010 11:41 PM

WangShuo: 我鼓励老婆去购物。老婆不好意思地说，这样我不是很没文化？我说不用担心，就算加起来除以二，我对我们的文化含量还是很有信心。

from Twitter / WangShuo - Feb 14, 2010 6:48 PM

WangShuo: 老婆在超市里叫起来，老公，这地方有cctv卖唉，是什么？我一看，警示小偷的标签贴在货架上了：cctv（闭路电视）在看着你！

from Twitter / WangShuo - Feb 14, 2010 5:39 PM

WangShuo: 老婆，给我做一个无辜，贪婪，神气兼具的表情！老公，难度太高，我都肌肉痉挛了。

from Twitter / WangShuo - Feb 13, 2010 3:07 PM

WangShuo: 老婆某年春节跟我回家。大姐叫她去厨房帮忙，结果洗的碗无一只通过大姐的质检，从此老婆免于家务。

from Twitter / WangShuo - Feb 13, 2010 11:44 AM

WangShuo: 每当我建设性批评，老婆就说，我没骗过你，结婚时候就风险提示过所有缺点，是你自己要结的喔。

from Twitter / WangShuo - Feb 10, 2010 7:45 PM

WangShuo: 老婆要求，与老婆相处要谦虚，不得利用自己的优势获取非份的利益。我说，谦虚技对你有好处，但对我有什么好处。为什么要禁用？

from Twitter / WangShuo - Feb 7, 2010 3:40 PM

WangShuo: 看忠犬八公看到哭了。老婆抱着我说，放心，我在这里，在这里。

from Twitter / WangShuo - Feb 6, 2010 5:00 PM

WangShuo: 老婆检查我的短信和电邮，问，你这里面怎么全是正事，没有绯闻？

from Twitter / WangShuo - Feb 5, 2010 12:50 PMDelete

第六集（2010年3月）

WangShuo: 一秒钟前，老婆在车上开心地说来说去。一秒钟后，已经打小鼾了。

from Twitter / WangShuo - Mar 29, 2010 (3 days ago)

WangShuo: #OnWriting 畅销小说大家斯蒂芬金一半自传一半关于如何写作的建议。我对如何写新闻有点想法，但有次老婆要我写穿越文给她看，写了300字开头就悲惨地自知之明了。

from Twitter / WangShuo - Mar 27, 2010 (5 days ago)

WangShuo: 老婆推之星巴克系列：大英博物馆10点才开门，初春微雨，跟老婆在对面的小星巴克里互相拍照杀时间。我拍她背影、侧影但无拍不出深邃。她给我左拍右拍怎么都把星巴克店招拍得比我更显眼。老婆你真的教过我构图吗？

from Twitter / WangShuo - Mar 24, 2010 6:00 PM

WangShuo: 老婆平时默认状态是天然呆，但我知道她的潜能，告诉她至少是骨勇级数，有可能是神勇。她问我是什么勇，我说，无勇。

from Twitter / WangShuo - Mar 23, 2010 12:56 PM

WangShuo: 我对刚起床的老婆大声叫，google退出中国了！老婆神定气闲地说，知道啊，半夜被你呼噜吵醒，上网，已经看见.cn重定向到google.com.hk了。

WangShuo: 老婆推之星巴克系列：华盛顿18街和H街十字路口东北有间星巴克。老婆某次要采访前美国贸易代表巴舍夫斯基，提前到巴办公室旁边的这家星巴克准备，排队买咖啡还在背问题：中美贸易关系会不会受影响？前面老美不胜其扰，回头正告：absolutely！

from Twitter / WangShuo - Mar 21, 2010 3:40 PM

WangShuo: 老婆推之星巴克系列：北京丰联广场星巴克我和老婆去得最多。工作之余下楼二人世界一会，7年。某次与老婆一言不合，起身就走，后来道歉。不料老婆也向我道歉，因为她已撕碎中移动积分所换之600元星巴克卷以泄愤。吵架有风险，发火需谨慎。

from Twitter / WangShuo - Mar 21, 2010 3:40 PM

WangShuo: 老婆推之星巴克系列：去年初，看完凡尔赛宫出来，不想回巴黎市区，在城铁站对面的星巴克跟老婆一起隔着玻璃晒太阳，昏昏欲睡。看见对街车站前一只大黑背神采奕奕，守着昏昏欲睡的流浪汉主人。老婆怕狗，精神了，走人。

from Twitter / WangShuo - Mar 21, 2010 12:39 PM

WangShuo: 老婆推之星巴克系列：某个初春跟老婆去纽约，倒春寒刺骨，无心逛街，见星巴克就钻进去。在纽交所旁小巷里的星巴克，我读了纽约时报关于当时乌克兰橙色革命内幕的报道，对老婆说，纽约时报最长于此。老婆乖乖听完我的冗长分析，一般她会中途睡着的。

from Twitter / WangShuo - Mar 20, 2010 2:42 PM

WangShuo: 在星巴克等老婆。我和老婆去过许多星巴克。小故事写下来，会是很好的广告。

from Twitter / WangShuo - Mar 20, 2010 2:42 PM

WangShuo: 老婆推之星巴克系列：与老婆一起去的第一家星巴克，在东方广场地下一层。刚谈恋爱，老婆号称喜欢电脑，但在那里玩了会儿我的小sony 就索然无味。我慢慢明白，女人的话不能信。女人心口不一，不是骗你，是天性。她喜欢什么得你自己观察，投其所好没有捷径。

from Twitter / WangShuo - Mar 20, 2010 2:42 PM

WangShuo: #TeamOfRivals 林肯老婆Mary曾经拿刀子把他逼到过花园，曾经拿扫帚把他赶出过家门，拿木板招呼过他的头。我，中文老婆推创始人，还有什么不满意的呢？

from Twitter / WangShuo - Mar 12, 2010 6:26 PM

WangShuo: 跟老婆吵架吵急了的时候，我抢过她的录音笔，还抢过笔记本电脑。

from Twitter / WangShuo - Mar 12, 2010 11:20 AMDelete

第七集（2010年4月）

WangShuo: 老婆发表言论，我表态说：是。老婆不满意，要我多说点，我说：是的。老婆生气了，我害怕地又多说了一点：真的是。

from Twitter / WangShuo - Apr 19, 2010 9:06 PM

WangShuo: 老婆说，“给你买劳力士吧？”我说，“别，一点兴趣没有。”“哈哈哈，所以我从来不说给你买 ipad，就怕你有兴趣。”

from Twitter / WangShuo - Apr 19, 2010 9:06 PM

WangShuo: 今天去美国使馆签证，旁边是一组大学生，据说签到证的话中介机构给办在美带薪实习。大学生们很紧张，个个拿着张纸在背问答。看到一句，“hello, teacher!”我对老婆说，我是签证官就回答：“hello, child labor”。

from Twitter / WangShuo - Apr 19, 2010 2:23 PM

WangShuo: 老婆撒娇问，我是你的什么？我老实作答，你是我的锚。

from Twitter / WangShuo - Apr 14, 2010 8:47 PM

WangShuo: 老婆飞机误点，零点才到，却在飞机上不肯吃饭。我生气了，你是不是仗着有人管就自暴自弃了？老婆不服说，我的缺点就是你的机会。我不明白机会是什么意思，买吃的去了。

from Twitter / WangShuo - Apr 13, 2010 10:56 PM

WangShuo: 老婆在外丢了几千块钱，忐忑怕我责骂。我发去慰问短信，快用逛街购物来麻醉自己！老婆大喜。严格要求要在事前，错误已成则要减压。

from Twitter / WangShuo - Apr 11, 2010 8:44 PM

WangShuo: 老婆抱怨，你要是对我像对手机那样好就好了。我说，这破手机我今天硬格式化了三次。

from Twitter / WangShuo - Apr 7, 2010 8:14 PM

WangShuo: 电视主持人问征婚节目男选手，用鞋作比的话，婚姻对你是什么？老婆应声作答：拖鞋。拖鞋舒服嘛。

from Twitter / WangShuo - Apr 7, 2010 4:21 AM

WangShuo: 老婆在外办事，一拍身上没钱。向刚认识的人借两块五坐地铁。人没零钱。改借十块，人一气之下借了她五十。我后来问，五十也不够办事呀，事怎么办呢？走一步算一步，她答。

from Twitter / WangShuo - Apr 6, 2010 9:56 AM

WangShuo: 老婆推之星巴克系列：望京星巴克，只带了一台电脑，我奋笔疾书。老婆很乖地玩iphone。良久。我回头去看，发现老婆正在看Stanza书，托克维尔的《旧制度与大革命》。大惊。道歉。老婆，电脑给你看穿越文吧。你受委屈了。

from Twitter / WangShuo - Apr 4, 2010 11:08 AMDelete

第八集（2010年5月）

WangShuo: 老婆不在家，啤酒、牛肉，下基辛格的Diplomacy。不亦快哉！

from Twitter / WangShuo - May 30, 2010 (3 days ago)

WangShuo: 让好老婆来找你。RT @xyaoo: 请王老师赐予找到好老婆的方法

from Twitter / WangShuo - May 28, 2010 (5 days ago)

WangShuo: 旅行我要跟老婆在一起，那样我就特会认路，接受购物，喜欢拍照，不避寒热，甚至跟尼泊尔老农民在长途车上抢 座。如果老婆不在，我一般不会出酒店。RT @wangpei: 旅行在拍照中迷失了风景。在天池边，我伫立凝神5分钟，以便把眼前的雪域冰湖曝光在心中。

from Twitter / WangShuo - May 28, 2010 (5 days ago)

WangShuo: 来开会之前，我刚跟老婆说，一个人绝大部分时间献给老婆和老板，找对正确的老婆和老板，绝大 多数时候就是开心的。”我的博文《诺贝尔经济学奖得主谈快乐》在此：http://sinaurl.cn/hgJhT

from Twitter / WangShuo - May 18, 2010 1:11 AM

WangShuo: 老婆担心地问我，脸上的痘痘怎样了。我说，我从来看不见你的痘痘。目无全牛，懂吗？

from Twitter / WangShuo - May 3, 2010 12:16 AM


WangShuo: 朋友Nai看我忠实地帮老婆拎包，说这太中国了，美国男人绝不会为老婆拎包。我问是不是因为美国人重视隐私。她说是美国女人要自立。我转头问老婆，你要不要自立？

from Twitter / WangShuo - May 1, 2010 7:37 AMDelete

第九集（2010年6月）


WangShuo: 老婆睡着了。抱着我的胳膊说梦话：＂妈妈，妈妈。"

from Twitter / WangShuo - Jun 29, 2010

WangShuo: 老婆晚饭吃了一整份炭烧猪颈肉，拍着肚子说还饿。“我胃里里好象长了一个黑洞。”她可怜巴巴地看着我， “再给我买块卤肉吧？”

from Twitter / WangShuo - Jun 28, 2010 (2 days ago)

WangShuo: 老婆从不看球，突然看见电视上打出朝鲜队阵容名单，尖叫三声：coach！coach！coach！然后突然想起来，coach指教练，不是她喜欢的那个包包牌子。

from Twitter / WangShuo - Jun 21, 2010 7:39 PM

WangShuo: 午饭我把老婆最爱的炭烧猪颈肉全留给她了。过会一看，还留着两片，说是内心挣扎，天使战胜魔鬼，还是给我留了两片。但如果我欣赏她的自律，还是可以把这两片奖给她的。我该怎么做？

from Twitter / WangShuo - Jun 12, 2010 12:29 PM

WangShuo: 看到高考作文题“脚踏实地与仰望星空”，我对老婆说，总理误读康德，命题人误读总理。我很想讲讲为什么，但老婆完全不想听。老婆你能不能对高雅多感一丝兴趣？

from Twitter / WangShuo - Jun 8, 2010 11:37 AM

WangShuo: 每当我想买围棋天地，就体贴地问老婆，要不要买本Vogue? 每次想买瓜子，就要求给老婆买德芙巧克力。老婆从来不知道我在干什么。

from Twitter / WangShuo - Jun 7, 2010 10:44 PM

WangShuo: 我在星巴克看书等老婆。老婆等来了，但书还没看完。我说，我们不能在这里谈谈恋爱吗？老婆高兴地同意了，然后就拿起一本我事先精心放好位置的杂志。我则争取到了时间。

from Twitter / WangShuo - Jun 7, 2010 7:40 PM

WangShuo: 岳父说，老婆小时候多动症。得每天早上喝咖啡，以便早点引爆她的多余能量。

from Twitter / WangShuo - Jun 5, 2010 1:19 PM

WangShuo: 老婆充满感情地对我说，你就是为我定制的打包服务。

何小姐 Miss He

在常青藤放榜前几日, 我在网上遇到一个女孩. 而后常青藤放榜, 咱同时悲剧, 再一同为WL而纠结. 虽然她在我的MSN好友中, 但我预想她永远不会到这个空间来看我的文章, 所以大可放心写几句. 近来我时常与人谈到她, 并非我对她本人有多么深厚的感情, 而是她让我看到了一种截然不同的生活姿态. 她三年前独自来到纽约城生活, 自己租房自己买水电, 自己买菜做每一餐饭. 她学音乐, 弹钢琴有14年之久, 绘画曾学了8年. 作为音乐艺术生, 她有时为了个人演奏会要每日练琴到13个小时之久. 她讲时常边看电影边练琴, 大抵是 练习肌肉记忆: 注意力完全不在琴上仍能演奏出高山流水之乐. 她几乎从来不睡觉, 也许部分来自习惯, 部分来自父母的遗传. 我问她比别人多出那么多时间, 一定是学圣吧? 她说不是不是, 有数不尽的通宵她也在电影, 书和food network网站(各种食物及其制法)上度过.

我曾瞥过她原来写过的文章. 不同于我, 她总是很强烈很直接地挥洒自己的情感. 抒情随笔我也不是见得少, 但很少有人如她这样万分执着, 甚至许多时候几乎是逼迫自己. 于是我想, 也许这就是学音乐且非常要强的人的特质. 他们敢于呐喊, 敢于毕露锋芒, 却也更是心思细腻, 感慨千端.

其实我真得感谢这位朋友, 让我如此真切地体会了另一种人生方式. 走满极端? 但走极端在我这里从来都不是贬义词.

Several days before the Ivy League posted their admission results, I met a girl on the internet. Then we both encountered disasters in Ivy League admissions, and both suffered incredibly for the waitlists we were on. Though she is my friend on MSN, I figured she probably would never come to read my stuff, so I can write something about her without any worry : P Recently I often mentioned her when talking with friends, not because I hold very strong affection for her, but because she presented a lifestyle brand new to me.

Three years ago, she came to New York City alone. All by herself, she rented an apartment, paid for the electricity and water, bought food and made every meal in a day. Majoring in music, she played piano for 14 years, and learned painting for 8 years. Practicing piano for 13 hours a day to prepare for a personal concert was nothing rare to her. She told me sometimes she would watch movies while practicing piano, and I guess it was for muscle memory: thus she could still weave fantastic music from the piano even if her attention is totally not there. She almost never sleeps, maybe partly due to her habit, partly due to her heritage from parents. Once I asked: "how do you spend this much time that others do not have? Study?!" She said: "No, no. Countless nights were all about movies, books and foodnetwork.com."

I read her blog some time ago. Not like me, in her words she always floods her feelings out like mighty rapids, with extraordinary strength and directness. I have seen many passages solely written for feelings, yet seldom have I detected such kind of perseverance. So I thought, maybe this is the characteristic of people who study music and never tolerate failures. They dare to scream, to shine with all they obtained inside, yet also sensitive to details of feelings, and can be sentimental at times.

I should really thank this friend, for letting me savor such a different way of life. She bears too many extremities? Extremity is hardly ever a bad word in my dictionary.

Out of the Window

Here again, I am glancing outside of the window, just like I always did in the old days. 

The sky is growing darker, and wind blowing among green leaves, which in my memory never turned into other color. The building not far away has been empty for what is like ages.

I feel it's raining. But it's not. The road, down at the bottom flat ground, is dry.

For a moment, there go back to me pieces of fantasies I once had, long long time ago, wrapped in a blurring feeling, like a child's perception of the outside world.

Usually after this moment, there followed a busy night. I would time after time be touched, but always busy enough to let it slip away without a trace.

Now maybe something is lost.

To Hell With The Courts

20世纪初的工人运动中, 1912年在圣地亚哥, 杰克·怀特在一场自由演讲争端中被捕, 入狱6个月. 当被问及他有任何话向法庭说时, 一个速记员写下:

The prosecuting attorney, in his plea to the jury, accused me of saying on a public platform at a public meeting, "To hell with the courts, we know what justice is." He told a great truth when he lied, for if he had searched the innermost recesses of my mind he could have found that thought, never expressed by me before, but which I express now, "To hell with your courts, I know what justice is," for I have sat in your courts room day after day and have seen you, Judge Sloane, and others of your kind, send them to prison because they dared to infringe upon the sacred rights of property. You have become blind and deaf to the rights of man to pursue life and happiness, and you have crushed those rights so that the sacred right of property shall be preserved. Then you tell me to respect the law. I do not. I did violate the law, as I will violate every one of your laws and still come before you and say "To hell with the courts." ...

中文:

那位起诉律师, 在他给陪审团的请诉中, 控诉我在一个公共聚会上演说公共政纲. "去他的法庭, 我们知道什么是正义." 他说谎的时候也说了很多事实, 因为如果他寻遍我大脑最深处的蔽所, 他会发现我未曾表达过, 但今日我会说出来的: "去他的你们的法庭, 我知道什么是正义." 我曾日日坐在你的法庭中, 并且看过你, 斯洛恩法官, 还有其他你这样的人, 把他们送进监狱因为他们胆敢践踏神圣的财产权. 对于人们追求生活和幸福的权利你们变得眼瞎耳聋, 你们粉碎这些权力来保护神圣的财产权, 然后你们要我来尊重法律. 我不会. 我确实违反了法律, 正如我会违反每一条你们的法律然后仍然站到你面前说"去他的法庭."...

我曾想, 最合理的方式是不是最高效的方式. 比如在机场柜台排队办理手续, 是不是每个人都应该按照他办理手续的速度得到相应的惩罚或者奖励. 这个方式自然会加速人们办理手续的速度, 督促慢性子的人手脚迅速一点. 这是不是更合理的方式? 但什么才叫更合理呢? 也许该换个说法, 这是不是这个社会应该采用的方式? 也许这个方式会提高社会的生产效率, 但是必定很多人会反对这个方式. 所以由于众多慢性子人的反对, 这个方式不会被执行. 所以社会, 如果是处于理想的状况下(实在的民主而非某少数阶层统治, 无论他们是不是本着"民主"的名义), 应该是按照最多人同意的方式运行而非最高效率地运行. 其实按极端情况想, 若是按照最高效运行, 那所有人都要戒掉所有休闲娱乐时间来工作. 所以这里要分清两个概念, 社会最高效"运行"并不是最高效"发展". 什么才能算发展? 发展是进步到更合理和优越的状态, 是所有人的利益都能被照顾到的状态, 而非只有某些资产阶级, 某些无产阶级, 某些权贵, 某些精英, 某些急性子的利益被照顾到. 当某些人还生活在社会边缘, 还在为下顿饭而忧愁, 还在忍受肮脏危险的工作环境, 还在遭受性别和肤色的歧视, 还在为了服务"国家利益"(如果那真的是整个国家的利益)而遭受战争摧残, 当他们还继续被这个社会所忽略或忽悠, 咱们敢毫无顾忌地谈"社会正发展"么? 有些人说至少部分人的生活得到了改善. 这么说的, 有几个人是在为政府辩护? 有几个人是在蓄意忽略社会边缘的人? 还有几个人, 是把"社会的发展"和"科技的发展"弄混了? 最终, 这个社会的所有人真比5000年前的人要活得更快乐么?

关于加快机场办理手续的制度假设, 还可以引申一点. 若某个房间有规定, 所有坐坏椅子的人都要赔偿相同的椅子. (并假设椅子是容易坐垮的塑料椅子.) 这个规定公平么? 若是这个房间是某个车站或者机场的唯一休息室呢? 若是这个房间是社会某个会员很得利的组织呢? 若这个房间就是社会, 而它的规定就是法律呢?

In 1912, San Diego, Jack White was arrested in a conflict for free speech, and sentenced six months in prison. He was asked what he had to say with the courts. A stenographer later wrote:

The prosecuting attorney, in his plea to the jury, accused me of saying on a public platform at a public meeting, "To hell with the courts, we know what justice is." He told a great truth when he lied, for if he had searched the innermost recesses of my mind he could have found that thought, never expressed by me before, but which I express now, "To hell with your courts, I know what justice is," for I have sat in your courts room day after day and have seen you, Judge Sloane, and others of your kind, send them to prison because they dared to infringe upon the sacred rights of property. You have become blind and deaf to the rights of man to pursue life and happiness, and you have crushed those rights so that the sacred right of property shall be preserved. Then you tell me to respect the law. I do not. I did violate the law, as I will violate every one of your laws and still come before you and say "To hell with the courts." ...

I used to think whether the most reasonable way is the most efficient way of doing things.  Should we add some rules in airport, saying that every one would get some reward or punishment according to how fast they could do their check-in, thus saving time for others waiting in line? For sure this will increase the speed of check-in, yet is this the better way to do it? But how could we define a “good” way or a “reasonable” way? Or maybe we should say is this the way to be adopted by the society? Maybe it could improve the productivity of the society, yet still, it will encounter enormous resistance from those with a slow habit. Thus it will not be put in effect. So I think, in an ideal circumstances, in which the society is truly democratic instead of controlled by some minority, no matter under the name of “democratic” or not, the society will use rules agreed by most people, not rules the most efficient. Actually, if the society is really operating in its highest efficiency, all people should quit their recreation to work. Thus here we should distinguish between two concepts. “Developing fast” means not “producing fast”. What is developing? It is progressing to a better state of society, where interests of all people can be met, instead of only some capitalists, communists, aristocrats, elites, or those with a fast nature can enjoy the results of development. As long as there are people living on the brink of society, worrying about their next meal, tolerating filthy and perilous working environment, encountering discrimination for their sex or skin color, being tortured by wars for some “national good” (if it is really good for the entire nation), as long as they are still ignored or cheated by the society, how could us still talk about “social development” with ease? Some may argue that at least SOME people have improved their life quality. Among those saying this, how many are defending for the government? How many are deliberately ignoring people from the bottom of society? How many are confusing “social development” with “technology development”? Finally, do all people live a happier life than 5000 years ago?

About the imaginary rules for airport check-in, more may be discussed. If there is a rule in a room saying “all those who break a chair shall compensate a new same one.” (We assume the chairs are plastic and relatively breakable.) Is this rule fair? What if this room is the ONLY rest place in a station or airport? What if the room is an social organization, and its members enjoy major privileges? What if the room is the society, and its rule the law?

Mr. Fama

周一上午完成了Pre-Calc的期末测试, Mr. Fama也检查完我所有笔记和作业. 离开时, 我问是否需要将这个他学期开始时给我们的, 如今夹了我所有资料的活页夹归还, 他手将夹子推还给我, 说: “不用, 我希望它能在你今后的路上帮上你一点.” (“No, no. I hope it can help you a little bit as you go on in your life.”)


其实很可能我以后再也不会翻这个笔记. 这门课并不难, 绝大多数东西我都已学过. 若不是与US Gov’/Econ的课相冲突, 我当初会直接选Calculus.(也是他教.) 在这个课上我都很少有听课, 笔记也甚为简陋. 好在凭着底子, 考试的成绩都不错. 让我时时感慨的是这位老先生的性格与礼仪. 逾80的年龄已颇显憔悴, 但常常他都会神采飞扬地讲述以往经历, 甚或只是简单的笑话, 浮溢仍然年少的热情. 我只听过他在卡瑜加社区学院, 伊利诺伊大学, 密歇根大学, 还有在中国武汉的往事, 然而隐隐, 会感到这都只是他的冰山一角, 然后思索藏于那白发和纹绉之后的究竟是何样的灵魂, 经过了多少历练和打磨, 才最终修得不随时光而消减的对生活的感激和从容. 可在花放群山, 雨打芭蕉中, 年底又到来, 其他学子忙着筹划假期, 而咱们共行的旅途亦到尽头.


我只呆了一年不到, 还未完全相识, 又分道扬镳. 等下次我再能拜访此地, 怕已是物换人非. 尤其面对古稀之年的老先生时, 顿感生命之脆弱与无力. 又想到丹麦女孩阿维回国前, 最后一节环境科学课后Dr. Flowers才确知她第二日登机. 相比我今秋又将回美上大学, 阿维今后的计划都在丹麦, 所以故地重游的可能性更小. Dr. Flowers, 也是一位年迈的女士, 对阿维说: “这一年过得很愉快, 希望咱们有朝一日能再会.” (“This year has been a pleasure. I hope we will meet again some day.”) 似乎好多时候, 说希望再会是知道很可能难以再会.


离别是离别, 可我现在再一次不知生活会将自己引向何方.


On Monday morning, I finished the Pre-Calc final. Mr. Fama also finished checking all my notes and homework. Upon leaving, I asked him if I should return back to him the binder, which he gave us at the beginning of the year and now has all my materials in it. He pushed it back slightly, saying: “No, no. I hope it can help you a little bit as you go on in your life.”


Actually, very unlikely I will ever open the notes again. This class is not hard, and I already knew most of the knowledge. If not for the conflict between U.S. Gov’/Econ and Calculus, I would have chosen Calculus. Sorry to say, in Pre-Calc, I seldom paid full attention and took serious notes, yet with what I have already learned, I luckily got good grades. What really impressed me was Mr. Fama’s personality and courtesy. His appearance tells his age of over 80 years old, but always he would narrate his experience, or just simple jokes, with laugh, joy, and ageless passion from his early days. I have only heard about his adventures in Cayuga Community College, University of Illinois, University of Michigan, and the city of Wuhan in China. However, slightly I felt all these were just a small corner, emerging above the water, of the huge iceberg of his prolonged life experience. Then I would ponder, what kind of soul was hiding behind those white hair and wrinkles, and how many setbacks and difficulties he had encountered, so he could eventually cultivate such appreciation and patience for life, that could not be worn out by time. Yet now, when flowers are blooming in mountains, rain drops hitting leaves, other students busy with summer planning, our shared path is also coming to an end.


I stayed only for less than a year. Not even beginning to know about each other, we are heading for our own roads again. Next time when I visit here, much may have changed. Particularly in our aged gentleman, there could be sensed a sort of fragility about life. Before Anine went back, it was after the last Environmental Science class that Dr. Flowers knew her flight was on the next day. Compared with me coming back for college this fall, Anine’s all plans remained in Denmark, so the possibility for her to travel back is even smaller. Dr. Flowers, another lady beginning to feel the pass of time, said to Anine: “This year has been a pleasure. I hope we will meet again some day.” Yet at that moment I felt, for a lot of times people say “hoping to meet again” because they know it could be difficult.


Yet once again, I have no idea where my life will draft me.

Something About Humbleness

逐渐逐渐经历开始丰富一点, 于是发现世界的千奇百怪, 还有人的千姿百态. 这时犹为想起维果曾引用的主神奥丁的话: 

“那些远行的人是真正的智者，他们踏遍世间道路.
惟有经历天涯海角的流浪，他才能分辨人心的善恶.”


固然我还没有 “踏遍” 世间道路, 但也体察到要亲历一些为人为事, 细细思索斟酌, 然后希望求得对于不同人们处事之态的一点点更多了解. 然后反观自身, 取其善者, 去其劣者. 同时也意识到人们表态的随机性. 一句话, 一篇文章, 甚或一段对话都也许只是人们在特定情况下的反常表现, 而正好被我们撞见. 故从一个片段来形成自己对某人的见解, 不论是赞扬还是贬斥, 大抵可以算作无意识而又无理由的习惯: 我们不自觉地会在交往过程中形成对别人的印象, 但也得充分明白自己的印象可能有差错. 但保持谦逊自知终归是件好事, 在评价他人也是如此, 尤其是在我们还不敢说自己 “完全彻底” 地了解别人之前. 从另一方面来讲, 虽然交往中所得到的只是别人作为一个 “完整的人” 的片段, 自己仍然可以从中反思, 得到一些对人们思维过程和行为习惯的认知, 从而对这个世界又加深一点了解, 然后反省自己的为人处事并进行调整. 对别人对自己的看法方面, 每个见解也可看作是一个调正我们自己的建议, 不论是否明白地表达出来. 他人见解很多是基于他们的经历和认识, 那么自己便努力把站在他人的角度来观察, 期待能对他们表达的观点有更深的理解. 同时自己也渐渐意识到时刻对建议保持有选择性, 即使对方是尤其优秀的人. 自身方面而言, 固然别人总会对自己有各种见解, 不论是公正还是偏激. 也许不断有人夸赞, 抑或贬低排斥我们, 但自己有几斤几两终归只有自己意识得到. 正如前人教导: “总是要反复检验自己内在有多少东西, 总是要自己先肯定自己, 然后悄悄退回去, 继续增加自己对喜好的知识的熟识度.” 懂得的事物, 见识到的人比之前多一点, 于是更加认识到自己受到的教育不够, 自己的缺陷很多. 而也会担心有更多的自己还没意识到的弱点, 然后更加敏感细微地观察自己的行为.


同时警醒一下自己: 而当别人对我们俯就时, 需珍惜机会. 总体而言, 牛圈的人少有对猪圈感兴趣的. 也莫把他人的谦逊作为炫耀的标志, 或自己出色的象征. 自嘲可非自贬身价, 而有可能是讽刺那些更落后的人. 最后蒙蔽在鼓中, 井底的, 很可能还是咱们自己.


Gradually my experience increased, and I learned the more about the variety of the world, as well as the variety in how people treat others and themselves. Deeply I felt what was expressed in the words from Hávamál:


‘He is truly wise who's traveled far and knows the ways of the world. 
He who has traveled can tell what spirit governs the men he meets.'


Obviously I have yet known the ways of the world, but increasingly I realized we need to gain experience personally about others, and then contemplate it, hoping to obtain a little more understanding in how people deal with the world. Then look back at ourselves, and adjust ourselves accordingly. At the same time, we may become aware of the randomness in people's expression of themselves. A single sentence, article, or even conversation might well be an unusual performance of people under certain circumstances, which happen to be encountered by us. Yet no matter positively or negatively, we tend to form opinions, unconsciously, toward others based on what we know - only pieces of others as a person. So we should be aware that our opinions might be not at all justified or unbiased. Keeping humble is always nothing to worry about, so is it when we judge others, especially before we dare to say we know absolutely everything about others. On the other hand, even it is the pieces of others that we could see, we still can ponder over those pieces, and try to comprehend a little more about their way of thinking, thus a little more about the world around us. Then we could use it as a mirror to see and better ourselves. In terms of others’ judgements of ourselves, it might be safe to say that every kind of opinion is a kind of suggestion on how we might be improved. The judgements of others, in many cases, are derived from their own experience and knowledge, which should be taken into consideration by us, if we intend to form a more profound comprehension of their judgements. Also it is crucial to accept suggestions selectively, even when they come from people very mature and outstanding. As for ourselves, it is obvious that around us are all kinds of judgements, either justified or not. There could be people constantly flattering or blaming us, yet only we ourselves understand how much we possess inside, in terms of either knowledge or personal qualities. Just as a precedent student taught me: ‘We shall always check the containment inside ourselves, and always approve ourselves at first, then withdraw back quietly and strengthen our familiarity with the knowledge we love.’ When beginning to learn and see more, I increasingly feel that my education is seriously limited, my shortcomings multiple, and there could be more weaknesses on me that I have not perceived. So I would observe myself with more care.


I should also notice myself: when others are stooping toward us, it is a good opportunity to learn something. Generally, those who are very talented and outstanding have little interest in those slow and ignorant. Do not take others' humility as a sign of arrogance, or a sign that ourselves are better. Somebody joking about their stupidity does not mean we could look down upon them. They might be criticizing alludingly those who are no better than them. Eventually, it could be us who are blind.

胡扯恋爱 Nonsense Discussion About Love

Jamie问我: "Are you looking for a girlfriend?" 我说对的.

然后紫薇同学非常诧异地看着我: "Are you serious?"

我没期待她有这种反应, 也不知道她为啥有这种反应. 不过我还是说, 是啊?!. 其实我也不知道自己在说什么. 这可能是一种惯性. 之前在学校的时候有个墨西哥女生问过我一模一样的问题, 我当时很犹豫地给了个肯定的答案, 想看看此女接下来会说什么. 结果她说她有朋友对我很有兴趣. 我想这好啊, 有人想追我就追我吧. 想必她也不会说那人是谁, 她自己瞎捏造的也有可能. 如今换了Jamie来问, 根据牛顿的惯性定律, 没有外力改变的话我还是会走老路. 所以我很快给了同样的答案.

如果这是个陷阱就糟了...

不过紫薇同学看俺如看怪物的眼光让我又思考了一下我的莽撞回答意味着什么. 我把墨西哥猛女和Jamie的问题翻译成中文后, 突然发现我回答"Yes"是在说自己在寻找. 如同搜索猎物一般地寻找. 而我开始理解他们的问题为"你现在是否下定决心, 至死不渝保持单身???" 言下之意, 是不是女生如果有要追我的就不要往枪口上撞了, 肯定悲剧? 我习惯鼓励别人勇敢地追求梦想...自然不想一句话就直接Pia飞人家. 没想到如今变成我自己跑东跑西搜罗女生了. 难怪Jamie评论到: "你一直坐在你桌子前工作, 真看不出你在looking for a girlfriend..."

我一直觉得时间和精力是要投资在自己身上的, 故未曾涉足追人之事. 况且如今恋爱越来越像打仗一样, 纷繁复杂. A喜欢B, A会告诉B么? 我觉得这个值得研究. A告诉B的话, A不就丧失主动权了嘛. 而B的话, 如果喜欢A, 自可以坐着不动安然享受A奉献殷情. 如果B碰到比A更好的人, 直接忽略掉A. 如果不喜欢, 那么至少可以先摆着, 预防以后一不小心喜欢上. 此设想的Assumption: 咱们认为表白是某种契约或者宣言, 表示俺以后做的事情就是博取阁下欢心的. 而违约是不怎么道德的. 可是现实和理论终究有差别. 现实中表白跟合同差远了. A给B表白后就是不付出行动去追, 或者转而去追C, 那么B有啥办法呢? 顶多心里骂A"空想而非实干家"或者花心大萝卜罢了. 如果B本来就对A没兴趣的话, 那么更不用担心了. B想都不会想A在做什么. 正如某人所云: "如果别人喜欢你, 你做什么都没关系. 如果别人不喜欢你, 你做什么都没用."(此话只是某闲杂人无聊的感慨, 不可当作行动纲领!!!)

更有甚者, 有时B感觉到A的爱慕后, 对A摆出高傲疏远的姿态. 那A应该干啥? 去亲近C来气死B? 如果B对A还有点感情的话兴许有用. (看来如今想对喜欢的人好一点忠诚一点都难.) 如果B对A完全不关心的话, 又回到那句话"别人不喜欢你, 你做啥都没用."

这么复杂纠结的关系也让我一直对恋爱敬而远之. 似乎恋爱=纠结+痛苦. 吃醋更是最惨不忍睹的事情. 敝人甚至怀疑, 如果A要花费那么大力气去追B, 那么B天性里就对A没有好感, B会爱A爱得足够深么?

我很懒. 故我曾梦见过这种事: 我在追一个女生. 她对我太好了. 她告诉我: "今天X时候去XX地方, 我会在那里. 然后你就可以约我和你出去. 然后我就会答应." 我照做. 成功. 这下知道为什么考SAT的时候要用官方指南了吧?

嗯. 胡侃也侃得够多了. 其实我觉得恋爱不需要那么复杂. 双方互相爱慕的话, 直接告诉对方然后在一起就行了嘛. 你高兴我也高兴. 那么纠结做啥.

不过要碰到双方正好互相爱慕的情况不太容易. 如果碰得到那就感谢上苍吧.

Jamie was asking me: "Are you looking for a girlfriend?" I said yes.

Then Ziwei stared at me, astonished: "Are you serious?"

I didn't expect such reaction, nor did I know why she was acting like this. But I still affirmed: "Yes?" Actually I myself didn't know what I was talking about. This might be a kind of inertia. Sometime ago at school there was a Mexican girl asking me exactly the same question. Hesitantly I replied "yes", wondering what she would say next. Then she said she had a friend very interested in me. I thought: "That's good. If someone wants to chase me, then just do it." I didn't think the Mexican girl was going to tell me who the girl was, or she might have make it up by herself. Now the question was proposed by Jamie. According to the Law of Inertia by Newton, if there is no force from outside to alter me, I would still continue on my previous route, so I quickly gave the same answer.

What if it's a trap?

But the curious look of Ziwei, which made me feel she was examining some sort of monster, led me to rethink about my premature answer. After I translated into Chinese the questions offered by the brave Mexican girl and Jamie, I suddenly realized, when I said "yes", it meant I was searching for, or preying on, innocent girls. But originally I interpreted their questions as something like "Have you decided to remain celibate for the rest of your life?", which means if there is some girl who likes me, it's better for her to give up right now as chasing me is inevitably a mission impossible. I am used to encouraging people to pursue their dream...so of course I won't exterminate their aspiration right from the beginning. Yet I didn't expect I would become the one running around searching for games. No wonder Jamie commented: "It's really hard to imagine that you, while working by your desk all the time, are looking for a girlfriend..."

Always insisting that time and energy should be invested in ourselves, I never ventured in the area of chasing people. Also, nowadays relationships become increasingly like warfare, incredibly complicated. If A likes B, would A tell B? It's an interesting question. If A tells B, A has a good chance of losing the driving power of the game. As for B, if s/he likes A, s/he could just sit back and enjoy what A is trying to offer, or if B meet someone more attractive than A, s/he could then simply ignore A completely. If B doesn't really like A, s/he could still store A's adoration in the basement, in case someday s/he might fall in love with A. To support my conjecture, we presume the expression of love as some kind of agreement stating: "All what I am doing is to please you.", and that breaking an agreement is unethical. Yet the reality is always different from theories. An expression of love is nothing like an agreement. If A tells B that s/he loves B, and pays no effort to chase B, or pays an awful lot of energy to chase another person C, what could B do? B might at most blame A as "a dreamer instead of a doer", or "one of those easily distracted morons". If B at the beginning has absolutely no interest in A, then there is nothing to worry about: B will not even pay attention to what A is doing, just as someone said: "If s/he likes you, it doesn't matter what you're doing. If s/he doesn't like you, it makes no difference what you're doing." (WARNING: It was said by someone perfectly out of boredom. Do NOT use this as a guide for your life!!!)

Furthermore, sometimes when B feels the adoration from A, s/he poses arrogance toward A. What should A do then? To please C, making B jealous? It will work if B still retains some interest for A. (So it's an difficult issue today even to show our affection or loyalty to someone.) If B is completely not interested in A, it goes back to the sentence "If s/he likes you, it doesn't matter what you're doing. If s/he doesn't like you, it makes no difference what you're doing."

The complex nature of relationship also discourages me from attempting it. It might be safe to say: LOVE = Intricacy + Infliction. The feeling of jealous is arguably one of the most cruel things. I even suspect, if A has to pay so much effort to chase B, which could indicate that B in her/his nature has no inclination for intimacy with A, will B eventually love A deeply enough even if A has successfully obtained B's affection?

I am very lazy, so I have had dreams like this: I was chasing a girl. She was too nice to me. She told me: "You can find me at XX place at XXX time. Then you can ask me out, and I will agree." I followed the instructions, and succeeded. Now understand why we should use the Official Guide for our preparation for SAT?

OK. Nonsense has been discussed enough. Actually I believe love ought not to be mind-blowingly complicated. If people like each other, they can just tell each other and then be together. What's the point to complicate things?

But cases are rare in which people happen to love each other from the beginning. If we have, we should be grateful.

la La LA.

昨日总算所有申请都弄完了. 下午把一个University of Rochester的朋友送到Rochester机场. 她要飞到遥远的休斯顿去, 就像候鸟迁徙一样. 在机场外, 我仿佛能够闻到阔别已久的旅行的气息. 晚上Jamie和Nick都到不同人家里去搞过夜的晚会, 而Lisa和David很早就上楼睡觉去了. 于是客厅里空荡荡的.

听Lisa说纽约时代广场在新年夜晚总是很热闹. 于是11点58分我第一次在美国打开电视, 看那些熙熙攘攘的人群兴奋地倒数新年来临, 踌躇着什么时候我也可以在那里迎接新的一年. 12点钟声敲响的时候很多人接吻, 焰火如雨. 

2010年来啦!


Yesterday, I finally finished all my college applications. In the afternoon I sent my friend from University of Rochester to the airport in Rochester. She was going to fly to Houston, just like the birds which migrate in every winter. Outside the airport, I could smell the sense of travel, a sensation I almost have forgotten. In the evening, Jamie and Nick went to different parties and were going to sleep over. Lisa and David went upstairs to their room pretty early. So the living room was left empty.


I heard from Lisa that Time Square in New York City is always crowded with celebrating people on new year's eve. So at 11:58 PM I turned on the TV for the first time since I arrived in USA. Looking at those excited throngs counting the seconds toward a new year, I was wondering when I could also welcome my new year at Time Square. At 12:00 PM, there were many couples kissing, with fabulous fireworks flowering like rains behind them.


Here 2010 comes!